Top Ten Things I Won’t Do Again Part 2
1. Share a driveway with a neighbor (no matter how nice and wonderful they are).
2. Say “because I said so.”
3. Continue a friendship because, and only because, “we’ve been friends for so long.”
4. Not speak my truth—immediately. I literally get a cold sore on my lip the following morning now if I don’t. My body/mind are so connected at this point that there’s no room for messin’ around. 
5. Wait too long to eat when pregnant with twins (which can be 20 minutes after the last time I ate).
6. Skip my afternoon nap when pregnant with twins.
7. Attempt to explain yoga, raw food, deliberate creation, and/or homeschooling to someone who is not interested in hearing about it/who is closed.
8. Laugh when someone suggests a baby name (thinking they are kidding), only to have him or her then say, “that’s my brother’s name.”
9. Believe, naively and erroneously, that when a “friend” trash-talks/gossips about other friends behind their backs, she/he is not trash-talking/gossiping about me behind mine.
10. Walk out into The Matrix without closing my second and third chakras.
BONUS! After last week, had to add this one:
Write about The White Castle on Super-mom.com. (LOL)
January 11th, 2010 at 6:47 am
YAY!!!!
Gossip never feels right to me (having been on the other side of it…but really..who hasn’t?). It is a tough one though, because people like to chat…what to do? I stand by NEVER saying anything about anyone else that I would not be comfortable saying directly to them…
January 11th, 2010 at 8:08 am
Yeah, Chrissy, and the irony is that NO ONE ever feels good after they gossip.
No one.
In the moment, it may be fun or entertaining for them, but their Spirit always kicks them in the **** afterward–it’s payback time in the form of guilt and suferring–just feeling “off.”
What to do?
Just don’t do it.
When I started my yoga practice and almost simultaneously stopped gossiping, it was awkward at best with a few friends who did it all the time (unconsciously I believe).
But people learn, and with time, they just didn’t do it around me anymore.
Or if they were gossiping I would attempt to gracefully change the subject to something light (as opposed to dark, which gossiping always is, no matter what).
This is why, no matter how addictive, you always feel drained after you read a tabloid. Even if it’s just at the check out counter at CVS!
“What I am focusing on–wanted or unwanted–I am creating.”
“What goes around comes around.”
Always.
Have the best day ever!
Namaste!
Taylor
January 11th, 2010 at 8:12 am
Thank you for teaching me, all those years ago in a yurt in Montana, how to close my chakras and cut the strings – I still remember!
xo
January 11th, 2010 at 8:39 am
What is “closing your chakras?” And what do you mean by “walking out into the Matrix?”
Love the post!
January 11th, 2010 at 8:58 am
LOVE the face Madison!!!! lol
January 11th, 2010 at 9:01 am
I loved your list! Especially #7.
I’m so glad you wrote about the White Castle! It was the best Super-Mom post ever (and I’ve read them all) and just what I needed to hear. I didn’t comment because by the time I got back from New York on Saturday, there were 46 comments and the conversation had gotten *heavy* and I didn’t see how I could really contribute.
I love the Buddhist advice – before saying anything, ask yourself these questions: is it true? is it kind? is it helpful? And I wasn’t going to be able to add anything helpful on Sunday.
I’m a big believer in deliberate creation, but I’ve never been able to articulate why it works and why it doesn’t when it comes to manifesting very specific, material, things, like a a White Castle. There are preconditions, namely, that absolute knowingness, and I’ve been able to look back and see that indeed, when I’ve been successful in manifesting certain *things*, it’s when I’ve had that absolute clarity. I can go back to childhood. I knew I would go to the prom with person a, I knew I’d get into college b, grad school c, that I’d get job d, etc. And I can see now, when I’ve been disappointed, it’s because I have doubted. Something in me has been unsure. Or my vision has lacked clarity.
I was interested to hear more of your story too. I had gleaned that there were some unhappy chapters between the Tennis Academy and Brown, and I know from experience the steely determination it takes as a young person to NOT allow circumstances beyond our control to determine our future paths. I sometimes worry in my own case that the very qualities that allowed me to survive my childhood (pretending everything was just fine) have made it difficult for me express what are legitimate needs in a way that anyone takes me seriously.
January 11th, 2010 at 10:04 am
Dear Taylor:
I am not a mom (does owning a big, goofy dog count? Sure feels like it some days!) but I LOVE this site!!! Girl, you rock! I can’t tell you how many lessons I’ve learned about life and about myself by reading your blog.
And thank you for opening the Prana Cafe! When I stopped in last month for takeout (green juice and chocolate pudding — talk about an energy blast, whoo hoo!), I gushed to one of your lovely team members that the Prana Cafe was “an oasis in the armpit of Newton Corner”!!! He cracked up. I told him he could quote me on that. I hope he passed that on to you.
Love and light to you!
Laura
January 11th, 2010 at 10:49 am
I love reading your posts! I love the combination of humor and enlightenment that I get from them. Being pregnant myself, I can really relate to some of the things you won’t ever do again. Isn’t it amazing how motherhood changes you? The two ‘won’t do agains’ that I got the most out of were #3 and #7. As I have evolved during motherhood and pregnancy, I am finding less ‘room’ in my life for empty chatter. I desire conversations that are meaningful and full of purpose. My question to you: How do you let go of a friendship that you have had for many years? Do you simply distance yourself and hope that you just grow apart? Do you actually have a conversation… a ‘break up’ so to speak? How do you let go of the disappointment of the ending of a friendship (that has really already ended)? How do you let go of the expections that someone you truly cared about has not evolved or growth spiritually in their life? Lots of loaded questions… I know!!
Anyway, had a great breakfast this morning at Prana with some great girlfriends and kiddos! Always feel energized leaving there!
Should have taken your advice on signing up for Raw 101 quickly. It’s full now… but I understand you may do another in Feb. Hope so!
Thanks for the post!
January 11th, 2010 at 11:25 am
Hi Taylor:
I actually don’t know you but I’m an SA at one of your studios and thank you for allowing me to take classes for free on a trade. I’ve been reading your blog (it’s how I found the studio) for several months. I, too, have had my skepticism about all this deliberate creation thing. Sometimes, however, I think that I may just be jealous of the abundance in your life because I don’t feel enough of it in my own.
Anyway – my real question is how your beliefs/philosopy reconcile when terrible things happen to good people. Like disease, death of a child, etc. I’m a mental health professional and the idea that someone attracts these things into their life just doesn’t sit well with me – sometimes it might even be a dangerous and unethical proposition (well in my line of work).
Curious as to your response. . .this isn’t a judgmental comment – I’m truly curious – but intent and energy don’t translate well on line
thanks
January 12th, 2010 at 12:32 pm
hi super moms!
thanks for your comments…..and elizabeth, that is so true…when i look back on my past and see how i created all that i wanted. ie — since you all are in boston, i went to harvard, and whenever even now people comment that i must be smart, i just say “not really, i just did the secret”
that is so completely true — i always did “the secret’ or abraham, etc and i never even knew it — all through high school when i had this and that “success”
but now i feel i am in a major process of un-learning all the bs that was put into my brain teaching me i couldnt have what i wanted, i wasnt enough etc (actually, that is mostly what i learned at harvard — that i WASNT enough, etc…i mostly learned there that i WOULD fail, etc (see the play Oleanna by David Mamet, or read it — so true!
anyway, now i am taking all the bs out of my brain and relearning what i knew intuitively as a child — that i CAN have be or do anything!
and melissa, yes, even we do create our tragedies — i am a single mom, my ex partner was so abusive, he tormented me pschologically — i spent my pregnancy — not only alone, but being called whore practically daily — did i create this? you bet i did! i will not play victim for one second — i know that i created my relationships my current financial situation etc
do i get jealous of taylor and my other friends who seem to be millionaires and jet setters? sure i do! i totally get jealous — and the second i feel that jealousy, i just breathe and turn it around, because i know that jealousy stands between me and what i want. i work myself into a place where i am truly happy for my friends — truly! and why? totally selfish reasons — i know that in being happy for others i am on my path, i am downstream to create my amazing partner, my blue house, and the best most abundant career ever!
namaste
shanti
January 12th, 2010 at 8:22 pm
Melissa… I absolutely agree that there are some things we can control and some things we can’t. I too am a single mom after going through a hideous divorce. Did I have a big role in getting into that situation… absolutely. I was raped by my father for the first many years of my life. Did I bring that upon myself because of some way that I thought or behaved? Absolutely not…. and I would be deeply offended by anyone that would suggest I did. I suffered through that because my father was a sick pedafile… which he was far before the moment I was even born. Do I believe it is possible to have a big impact on my life today with positive thinking? Absolutely. Do I believe that I can control everything… or that my thoughts or anything else about me is to blame when someone else makes a bad choice… no. Melissa- I appreciate the work that you do and the question that you posed. I have worked very, very hard on my recovery and that has included over 20 years of therapy — with kind and compassionate therapists that fortunately never in a million years would have told me that I was to blame in any way for the bad choices my father made.
January 12th, 2010 at 8:46 pm
Hi Taylor,
I just wanted to say that I loved your White Castle post, and found it very inspiring. It re-kindled my belief in the power of intention and manifestation, which sadly I had been doubting over the last few months after dealing with a major disappointment.
Thank you!
January 13th, 2010 at 6:55 am
I would like to clarify my last post now that I’ve had a good night sleep and time to re-ground after reading Shanti’s post. I believe there is a lot of power in deliberate creation. I believe that philosophy becomes dangerous when we use it to blame the ‘victims’ of violence. I use victims in quotes because I believe the word gets overused. For example- I am not the victim of a bad marriage and an even worse divorce. In many ways I brought that upon myself. That does not make me responsible for my ex husbands behaviors and choices… but I do believe I would not have married him if I had been further along in my recovery at the time and fully believed that I deserve to be treated well (accepting nothing less). While I am happy alone- I am using deliberate creation now and believe that I will be in a loving, equal, respectful partnership. That is hope. There are, however, times that people truly are victimized. Child rape is one of many examples. Our society has historically traded in the compassion for victims of others hideous behaviors for the need to feel safe… the need to believe that the terrible things that happen to some could never happen to us. I don’t believe we have control over all things. I believe the power of our thoughts is huge and training ourselves to have positive thought can have an enormous impact on our lives. That is because there is a LOT that we can control in our lives… even many things that it doesn’t appear that we can control. The problem may be in how we define the ‘things beyond our control’. It is often easier to lump something into that category than it is to empower ourselves and take responsibility for the many things we have control over. The category still exists though… especially in the innocence of a child.
I don’t want to speak for Taylor– but in my experience she is uniquely able to believe strongly in deliberate creation without mixing that up with blaming someone for others actions. I think it is resisting the temptation to oversimplify this concept and turn it into terms of black and white. To me that is what makes Taylor such a powerful teacher. She teaches the power we all have to create our lives without over simplifying and holding blame for people who experience traumatic events.
January 13th, 2010 at 9:22 am
Hi Taylor,
I think it would be a real shame if you did not talk about the manifestation for the White Castle and the sale of the Pink House. I was a witness to this and I felt blessed to watch you create what you wanted and then it was reality.
Please keep sharing your joy and let people know how it is possible for them to be as joyful. You are showing people what IS possible in the most powerful way. You are leading by example. We are seeing with our eyes what can be for us and some people are going to embrace this and some people are going to attack it. I love what you are doing and others do to. Keep it coming Sitah!
January 13th, 2010 at 11:56 am
Dear Melissa,
First of all, your energy is beautiful and clear and not at all critical.
You are correct that intent and energy don’t translate well online usually, but I’ve been reading energy for so many years now that I can usually read it even in the written word.
Asking questions is good!
It’s the bad energy and drama—in any situation, blog or not–that we can all do without. It’s a waste of our precious focus and energy and it’s drawing to us that which we DON’T want.
You’re cute when you say, “Maybe I’m just jealous b/c you have so much.” There is not a shred of mean-ness or bad energy in this statement. It’s real and it’s honest.
The problem with jealousy is that it does the opposite of what you want it to. It brings your energy down and causes your vibration to lower demonstrably. When you are at that low vibration, manifesting good things is difficult, if possible at all. Manifesting things that you’re not looking for/wanting is more likely.
Jealousy is based on a scarcity mentality. Scarcity is not real. The reality is that there is an abundance of everything that you and I want—plenty for everyone! Once you understand this, you know that someone else having something is a great thing! Rock on! I like the quote (and read it a lot): “I praise the success of others.”
When I praise his or her success, everyone wins.
When I am jealous/envious, I lose.
So if you can practice responding with joy and exhilaration when someone “wins,” then you will join them in the vortex of bliss and creation, and ride that/their wave! And in that vortex, anything is possible.
Regarding “when bad things happen to good people, Girl, I hear you.
I am a trained Clinical Psychologist with graduate degrees from Ivy Leagues (this doesn’t really matter to me but it does to some, and that’s cool), and I worked in Psychology/the mental health field for many years.
I specialized in working with trauma, and worked mainly with populations who had very little—support, love, money, resources.
One job I had was at Dimock Community Health Center in Roxbury, as one of two people running and working with women in a day treatment program for pregnant addicts.
I was the only woman not of color in the program (including the staff) and it took some time for me to earn the trust and love of those women. And oh I loved those women. I still do. I remember them all. If I thought they read my blog, I’d put a shout out to them.
I will use them as one of the many, many examples of the people I worked with who had dealt with extreme trauma, usually from birth.
(Please note: as I’ve referenced several times on my blog and in other places, I too am a survivor of severe trauma in childhood).
These women were born into homes without support or resources and did the best that they could. There was a tremendous amount of dysfunction and violence in their daily lives and when it got to be too much, they self medicated. Who wouldn’t?
I helped them stay off of crack for their babies; and their sake.
And they did.
Until the Republicans, freshly in office, cut the program. One day they had a program and I had a job leading these women to the light, the next day the program didn’t exist. It happened that fast.
But I digress…
When I first learned about deliberate creation, I challenged the idea that I created my awful childhood.
“Why on earth would I have done that?!” I wondered.
But as I learned more and more about The Law of Attraction and Deliberate Creation, I began to get it.
But it took time.
Time for me to take it all in.
Time for me to digest the ideas.
Time to process it and make it my own.
And sister, this was after I’d gone through years of my own personal healing from my personal trauma.
There is no way I could’ve taken in this information in my early twenties–I was way too pissed off, grief-stricken, and still stuck in the energy of all that had happened.
And rightfully so.
(PLEASE NOTE: TAKE WHAT YOU WANT AND LEAVE THE REST on everything I say on this comment…on my blog, and in my upcoming book: The Adventures of Super-mom: How to Create the Best Life Ever.) ☺
Here goes…
My understanding of “why bad things happen to good people” is that as we begin to take responsibility/”credit” for the good stuff we create in our lives, we must also learn to take responsibility for the not so good stuff, and even awful stuff.
When something challenging happens, I now ask my spirit “What’s the lesson here? What do I need to learn? What do I need to do differently?”
And in time, the answer does come.
As I said above, it took me years to learn to even think about my pain and history in this way.
And everyone is different in/on his or her journey.
If something feels right, take it in and explore it further.
If not, let it go and move on to something that does resonate with you.
Abraham-hicks has answered this question in many different ways and I googled her quotes to find the best quote ever for you; but after much looking, I wasn’t able to find one that I felt explained it well enough.
So I’ll paraphrase it as best as I can, but I also invite you to look into Abraham-hicks and search for yourself, as this is a big, powerful, and very personal question.
According to Abraham, through trauma, our spirits learn more about ourselves than through all the good experiences combined.
Trauma forces us to tap into that place inside of us that creates bliss and good experiences ,and attempt to create that place in our lives again.
It’s a shame that it sometimes takes an awful experience to do this, but according to Abraham, we are not privy to how things manifest.
We are creating all the time—with our thoughts, words, actions—and when someone has something awful manifest, it’s not that they just thought about it last night and wham! It’s here. (Some people call these sledgehammer moments).
Usually, we have been focusing on things going wrong, or on things that have gone wrong for quite some time. It’s become our habit (often unconsciously).
And remember, what we focus on brings us more of that to us.
For example, a person who has a horrible car accident most likely didn’t think the night before, “I want to have a car accident” and then had one.
More likely, he/she had been thinking negative thoughts for a long, long time (i.e. “I hate my boss,” “My job stinks,” “I never get what I want,” “I’m jealous of my sister,” “That neighbor always gets what she wants,” “My kids are misbehaving,” “My husband doesn’t care,” “I hate my body,” “I never have time for anything,” “I’m so stressed out,” and the list goes on).
So creating doesn’t happen immediately… she/he’s been having these thoughts for a long time.
And then WHAM! The sledgehammer moment—the accident, the diagnosis of a disease, the relationship that ends, the job that is lost, etc…and the person is forced to stop and reassess.
And hopefully, she/he begins to clean up her/his thoughts.
Abraham suggests that when the sledgehammer hits, we are being asked to live in a more empowered way. It’s a wake up call.
Perhaps the person has been asking, asking, asking, but not following through (with thoughts, beliefs, actions).
And thus, the sledgehammer.
Their Spirit is saying “I’ve been trying to tell you, but you’re not listening!”
It can Feel disempowering to say a person created that car accident (or whatever), but often these things are, in the long run, the most empowering.
From contrast, powerful desires are born.
Those who are the sickest become the healthiest and write books about it.
Many people from “The Secret” have had these sledgehammer moments—research that and learn.
Now what about those innocent babies…who are born into awful situations?
(Hellllowww, like I was).
Oh, Sister, I’ve thought A LOT about this.
For ME, my childhood trauma was a way for my Spirit to grow, to learn, to become the person, Spiritual teacher, leader I am today.
I take full responsibility for choosing my parents, my painful upbringing from Hell, and every other thing I manifested in my life thus far.
From my pain and trauma, I found contrast. I learned what I didn’t want and therefore, what I did. My faith was literally the thing that caused me to survive and be resilient. And in turn, more faith was cultivated.
I had to wait it out—17.9 years to be exact—until I could change my physical surroundings.
And once I could, I was outta there, physically and emotionally speaking.
I had nothing “material” at the time—no money to speak of–but I had my strong spirit and my intention.
And that’s all I needed.
It was very challenging for me to heal from my painful past, and I send love and light and support out to every Super-person going through that or who will go through it. but it lead me to the light, where my Spirit could create the joy and beauty that I daydreamed about/visualized/knew could be mine one day…if I could just hold on one day longer.
Writing this brings tears to my eyes. But they are no longer tears of grief and sorrow (as they were for many, many years).
They are tears of joy and relief and HOPE—hope for every one of you out there who needs it. Because you, too, can create what you want, and leave the past behind.
It wasn’t your FAULT—what happened.
But in my case (take what you want and leave the rest!) I believe it was my creation—for the highest evolution of my Spirit in this lifetime, and for the best opportunity to bring the most THE LIGHT to this planet.
I have NO SHAME.
I am proud for what I endured and made it through.
So I have EMPOWERMENT, JOY, and PRIDE from my horrendous experience—coming from a place of a Warrior/a Survivor, as opposed to the SHAME, BLAME, and RAGE that I held when I came from the place of VICTIM.
This is just my story.
Read more about how Abraham explains this phenomenon at Abraham-hicks.com.
Philippe and I get her CD’s monthly and listen to them daily.
I highly recommend them!
Peace out, Sisters.
Namaste!
January 13th, 2010 at 1:06 pm
Hi Taylor (and others who responded) -
Thank you for your thoughtful and thorough response. I’m struggling with the concept a bit: this morning I learned one of my daughter’s 3 year old preschool classmates has a brain tumor and is undergoing chemo. How can a 3 year old manifest this – their brains aren’t even that developed to think negatively over and over. . .and then there are those people I see in my work with schizophrenia (a mental disorder with a
January 13th, 2010 at 1:21 pm
sorry – got cut off by mistake – I’ll have to finish my comments some other time. thx for the dialogue
January 13th, 2010 at 7:40 pm
Hi Melissa,
I hear you. If only you knew how well I do hear you, and why.
I could cite many, many examples of times when I’ve questioned deliberate creation/the Law of Attraction.
Again, Abraham has a great, thorough, and convincing answer to your example, and many others like it, that to me are very difficult to reconcile mentally and emotionally. I’ve heard her describe this answer both on her CD’s and in her live seminars that I’ve attended over the years.
But for the life of me, I cannot replicate them here. (I believe she says something like in instances such as the tragedy of your daughter’s classmate, this little 3 year old angel has “done her/his work” in this lifetime on this planet–that which she/he set out to do upon birth (I know, I know–hard to swallow) and that only her Spirit knows what that work is and how long it will take/has taken, and it’s not for us “in our limited capacity and knowledge” to judge).
But again, this isn’t a great paraphrase of her theory on this difficult and painful topic. For some reason, it just doesn’t flow easily from my mind and Spirit, as most other things do…probably because it’s too “close to home” for me with regards to my past.
I therefore encourage you to explore Abraham-hicks more (if it feels right) and see for yourself how she answers this difficult and painful question.
I am by no means the end-all be all expert on Deliberate Creation in instances such as the one you describe, and my childhood was so horrific that if I explained to you the details, all of you Super-people would be shocked and wonder if I’d lost my mind to say that I believe my Spirit created it for a reason (in many other posts and articles I’ve explained why I don’t describe details about the darkness in my past).
For this reason and because I too still feel devastated when I hear of instances such as your daughter’s classmate and/or Anonymous’ horrendous experience with her father, and so on, I would prefer that you research it on your own as opposed to taking my word as THE WORD (LOL–that last part was meant to be humorous).
Also, I wanted to point out that I believe that it’s important for you, me, and everyone not to be “black and white” regarding Deliberate Creation/Law of Attraction and anything in your life.
There’s a saying “out there” about this that has to do with a baby and bath water that I’m not comfortable with, so I’ll use my own words. What I mean by this is that sometimes we connect/resonate with some things about a theory/person/school of thought/experience/etc., but not others.
I think it’s a mistake to then throw out the entire theory/person/school of thought/experience/etc. because of a few misalignments.
As I say over and over again, take what you want and leave the rest!
I hope this is helpful.
I am tearful reading about your daughter’s classmate and am sending healing light and love to her/him and his/her family.
Namaste,
Taylor
January 13th, 2010 at 7:43 pm
Oh my, I haven’t had the chance to check the blog in a couple weeks and apparently I started quite the debate. I apologize to Taylor and anyone else who thought my post came from a place of negativity. I will fully admit, it did come from a place of jealousy – jealously of Taylor’s sense of peace and purpose – but jealousy based on admiration and curiousity, rather than negativity.
I’m not sorry – I think healthy debate only enhanced the conversation and maybe clarified some of Taylor’s wisdom and learnings.
It’s still a struggle, but I am trying to get to a place of clarity and have some “do nots” of my own to relay. I am in Washington DC for work – was in the office at 7am to prepare for an event tomorrow. I received an IM at 4pm from the team in town for the event, “we are going for drinks and dinner tonight, you need to join us.”
Without going into detail, I had a bad experience going “for a drink” with a company executive a few years ago that caused me much angst and had a hugely negative impact on my marriage. Do not want to go that route, or close to it, again.
So okay, no I don’t need to join you. I worked from 7am – 5pm, am away from my daughter and finally had the chance to hit a yoga class in DC. So, I respectfully declined the dinner invitation. I am no sooner back in the hotel after a much cherished blissful practice and logged on to check email, when I receive an IM “we are still here at xx restaurant, you better join us for drinks.” I don’t like to drink. I respond, “no thanks, early day tomorrow.” Response: “if you’re a member of the team, you will meet us for drinks at 9pm.” Again, I declined via IM, only to receive several calls to my cell phone before I shut it off.
So, what is my point to this anecdote? Hmmm, not totally sure. I think my point is that fundamentally I am jealous of Taylor and Phillippe’s ability to control their lives … I am trying to assert more control over my life in terms of making healthy decisions about what are right for me. But what I am learning is that I have “ten things I will never do again”. It’s t a struggle but I am trying to stay true.
My y three year old daughter, by the way, the night before I left selected a rack of ribs from Whole Foods (despite the fact that we stick to the perimeter and she loves the produce aisle the best) and said “maybe if we make “WIBS”, Daddy will come back.” What I thought was a heartfelt cry, when relayed to “daddy”, received a “hmm, cute, too busy to see her for a few months”. Trying REALLY hard to be positive.
January 14th, 2010 at 5:52 am
Dear Taylor:
Would you please get in touch with me? This is regarding the name of your future book title — it is very close to the name of a project I produced and copyrighted. Can we discuss? Thank you!
January 14th, 2010 at 1:45 pm
Hang in there Julia!
The best thing that you can do is to enjoy your time with your cutie pie (3 is the CUTEST age and I miss it dearly in my own 2 girls) and do your best to not be mad/hurt about the way your ex treats your girl. Your sadness and anger won’t change it…if he sucks she will see that someday (sadly for him). My friend was in a similar situation and realized that she was tired of being pissed! She found a GREAT guy who is wonderful to both her girl (he came into their lives when she was 3 she is now 16), and her..they have since married and have had another child together and are the greatest little family! It will happen for you when you are ready! In the meantime, have those WIBS (LOL SO cute:) just you girls! And good for you for setting limits on that biz trip!!!!! As women we are programmed to “do it all” and to “keep the peace”….taking care of you is an awesome move!!!
As far as 10 things I will never do again???? LORD! We all have those, and you can’t and shouldn’t feel as though you have to not feel your feelings..part of being positive is knowing that it is OK to be sad for your daughter (or even for your ex). It really does sound like you are well on your way!!!! MY point in this long drawn out post???? To offer support of course and to assure you that your daughter has you….so she is all set!
January 14th, 2010 at 7:58 pm
Dear Julia,
I’m sorry that your work colleagues were so disrespectful of the boundary that you repeatedly set.
They clearly didn’t hear you, and that’s annoying at best.
But The Universe did.
So continue on your path, my Warrior Sister, and continue setting the boundaries that feel right to you; and soon, those IM’s will stop coming in.
And supportive IM’s will–from someone more on your vibrational level.
I’m sending much love, light, and support to you now and always.
Hang in there Sister–one breath at at time.
Namaste,
Taylor
January 15th, 2010 at 2:11 pm
Hi Laura,
I emailed you last night.
Have the best day ever!
Namaste!
Taylor
January 17th, 2010 at 10:25 am
I enjoy reading the articles and posts on this website, but always marvel at the reaction when someone dares disagree or becomes critical of the author’s article. I would venture to say Taylor, that even you bought into it by putting out the bit about throwing in the towel on Super-mom due to the ‘dark’ tone of the posts in response to your White Castle article. That’s rather passive-aggressive as I see it, and works to illicit a protective response from your readers (Oh, no, please don’t!), which is exactly what happened. Last time I checked, expressing disagreement and questioning intent does not dark equal (in my humble opinion). Why label those who disagree as ‘dark’, simply because their reaction wasn’t what you might have expected? An example of a dark response, from my point of view, might be Pat Robertson’s statement that the people of Haiti deserved the earthquake that devastated Port au Prince – now THERE you have some dark, evil shit going on! I would agree that the life lessons we learn from trauma definitely seem to trump those learned in the ‘easier’ moments, if you will, that align with our lives simply and pleasantly, and that we need to take responsibility, to some degree, for both. So be it for those posts made in disagreement; instead of running to justify or defend, perhaps process the message and see if therein lies some truth in that which shakes us up. Posting pictures of your big new house when people are struggling to pay their electric bill, or saying that we manifest everything, including horrible illnesses and earthquakes, is bound to piss people off, so while you are entitled to the abundance which comes of your hard work and to your opinion, as are all your fair readers, may I offer that there is a sensitivity and timing issue that you are perhaps over-looking? So, bring it as you see fit, and share it because I know you feel you have much to offer this world of ours, but take it too without recrimination and what amounts to passive name-calling because there is much to learn there as well. Bracing for the backlash-LOL…..
January 17th, 2010 at 10:40 am
Hi Ellie!
By “walking out into the Matrix” I mean walking out into the “world”–the “mainstream world”–which feels very different energetically than walking into a Prana Power Yoga Center or The Prana Cafe’, which have magetized people who are by the very fact that they are seeking yoga, transformation, healthy food, etc. are on a path of tranformation, open-mindedness and growth.
We magnetize the best people ever!
We are constantly amazed and grateful.
Clearing your energy and closing your chakras are not something that can be described adequately in the written word. I’d have to show you live, which I do in my PranaSupermom Consulting and in our Prana Teacher Training.
Have the best day ever!
Namaste!
Taylor
January 17th, 2010 at 10:48 am
Hi Elizabeth,
Thanks for your wise and thoughtful post.
I love that Buddha quote as well.
You’re in luck, because in my book I talk about what I went through during my childhood (it wasn’t actually just between Nick’s and Brown—it was sadly from birth until I left for Brown, excluding my time at Bollettieri’, since I wasn’t living with my family of origin).
But from the darkness came the light.
From my adversity I learned to be who I am today.
And that I can handle/deal with ANYTHING.
I too pretended everything was just fine during my childhood, because my survival depended on it.
But once I was “out” of those horrible surroundings, and after my joyful years at Brown, the **** hit the fan and I faced it all in my early twenties—a good thing, albeit a painful one.
So stay tuned—my book seems to be writing itself very quickly, and will be out soon.
I think we’ll self-publish it, unless any readers out there know the best publisher ever who won’t edit the you-know-what out of it.
Namaste!
Taylor
January 25th, 2010 at 7:05 am
Hi Suzanne….
I can flip the coin and try to see where you are coming from…I really can. Sensitivity..timing..etc…I get it..However I have to wonder why, if you don’t agree with something that Taylor says and/writes, it seems like a personal attack? There is a lot that I agree with, and a lot that I don’t. I personally do not think that people “bring” their misfortune in many cases, again, I could find TONS of examples of who got screwed, or how this or that was just plain f’ed up but really….why bother? What good will it do, what will it change, how will that thought process help? I am not saying don’t disagree or don’t be aware of what others are going through, I am merely suggesting that maybe a shift in perception..who knows..maybe on BOTH sides of the fence.
I can only imagine how many times I have unknowingly offended or pissed someone off because their views differed from mine. I too, have been pissed by others for the same reason until I asked myself why any of it REALLY bothered me so much..Why did I “care” that someone else saw something in a different light? Slowly I came to realize that when I got pissed, it was because of my own insecurity…for example (because I am really not attacking you personally I just am suggesting and who knows you may want to tell me to shove my suggestions you know where:)…I used to REALLY get upset by people who hated the police (Obviously because I am married to a police officer)…I used to get super offended by any thing negative said about ANY of them and would valve about how much people “sucked” because they were so mean..blah blah blah…Then I grew up and realized that all of my bitching would not change ANYONE’s view…and that it was stressing me out and making me someone that I did not like..Long story short? If you don’t agree why get mad? Why invite Taylor to “bring it”…what ever “it” is???? Why expose yourself to the views expressed in this blog (many that you don’t seem to agree with), f it inflames your anger? That I just don’t get…